Extract from Phillip G.
'"You create your own reality" - Is that true?
No, it isn't! The 'reality' (sic) is that reality is simply 'What Is', and if you create an apparent reality of your own, it's bound to be an illusory reality, not the 'real' reality!
In my own experience, people who said one or other of those quoted statements had considerable awareness limitations, and used those statements typically to people who were more deeply aware than them, in order to try to convince them that they've got things wrong about the way they experience life. What those statements do NOT show is that the people who repeat them really 'know the score' about enlightenment or deep knowledge or indeed plain common sense.
Indeed, it's the reverse. People who use such statements show that they don't properly understand what they're saying, and aren't thinking clearly, and, in short, aren't being genuine and authentic. Also, they're making fools of themselves through making out to be some sort of expert on what they're demonstrating they really don't understand at all.
Now that I've said that much in order to make an important point, I can add that of course in certain respects the statement appears to be true, though actually its 'true' aspects of meaning are generally not what people have in mind when they use that statement.
As far as anyone can tell, fundamental consciousness, which is our very deepest aspect, in some manner 'creates' the underlying reality of 'What Is' (albeit not in any way envisaged by the religions or spiritual traditions), and so in that respect you could be said to create your own reality - but that doesn't allow for the phenomenon of garbage interference that diverts us all into the creation of illusory realities, which are intrinsically subjective, which distort our perception of the underlying reality of 'What Is'.
Also, you can in many ways change the nature of your life experience, for greater freedom / happiness or for more restriction / unhappiness and pain. So, in that sense you can be said loosely to "create your own reality". But that doesn't explain the various apparently external factors such as garbage influences and indeed other people's interactions with you, which can't fully be controlled by you.
Rather than "You create your own reality", I'd be inclined to say "You can be in a fair degree of command over your life experience". You can't be in full command over it, without having absolute control over every single person and indeed phenomenon. The notion of total individual freedom is thus a myth; the most that can be attained is a state of maximal freedom of all people - which necessarily also contains constraints on each person's freedom in order to maximize the overall freedom of people generally'