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Post by Deleted on Aug 30, 2019 19:07:44 GMT
Questioning love as a need, audio series
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Post by Deleted on Dec 1, 2019 10:09:34 GMT
(Oprah.com) All the suffering that goes on inside our minds is not reality, says Byron Katie. It's just a story we torture ourselves with. She has a simple, completely replicable system for freeing ourselves of the thoughts that make us suffer. "All war begins on paper," she explains. You write down your stressful thoughts, and then ask yourself the following four questions: Question 1: Is it true? This question can change your life. Be still and ask yourself if the thought you wrote down is true.
Question 2: Can you absolutely know it's true? This is another opportunity to open your mind and to go deeper into the unknown, to find the answers that live beneath what we think we know.
Question 3: How do you react—what happens—when you believe that thought? With this question, you begin to notice internal cause and effect. You can see that when you believe the thought, there is a disturbance that can range from mild discomfort to fear or panic. What do you feel? How do you treat the person (or the situation) you've written about, how do you treat yourself, when you believe that thought? Make a list, and be specific.
Question 4: Who would you be without the thought? Imagine yourself in the presence of that person (or in that situation), without believing the thought. How would your life be different if you didn't have the ability to even think the stressful thought? How would you feel? Which do you prefer—life with or without the thought? Which feels kinder, more peaceful?
Turn the thought around: The "turnaround" gives you an opportunity to experience the opposite of what you believe. Once you have found one or more turnarounds to your original statement, you are invited to find at least three specific, genuine examples of how each turnaround is true in your life.
(http://everythingjustis.blogspot.com/2010/12/does-byron-katie-stuff-only-work-if.html?m=1)
The turnaround can be broken into three parts - to the self, to the other and to the opposite.
"He is a selfish jerk."
1.) To the self - "I am a selfish jerk (especially when thinking about him)." 2.) To the other - doesn't apply here. 3.) To the opposite - "He is not a selfish jerk."
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Post by Deleted on Dec 1, 2019 17:09:24 GMT
From "A Mind at Home with Itself"⠀ ⠀ When you were a child, before you had language, before words had any meaning for you, where was the world? There was none. You didn’t have a body, because you hadn’t yet believed yourself in. You had no separate identity; you couldn’t separate reality into an “I” and a world. When your mother pointed to a tree and said, “That’s a tree,” you looked up at her and said, “Goo goo, ga ga.” Then, one day, she said, “That’s a tree,” and you believed her. Suddenly there was a tree and a mother and a “you.” You had a world. You had a body. And before long, your body was too short, too tall, too skinny, too fat, not good enough for this, not good enough for that. A whole world of suffering arose when you began to name things in a world separate from you.⠀ ⠀ {...}⠀ ⠀ As it does The Work, mind can lose its grip on identity safely, gently. When you question your stressful thoughts and surrender everything that “you” thought you were, you come to the place where you wonder, “Without that thought, what am I?” Just because an identity appears doesn’t make it true. No one knows what he or she is. The minute it’s said, it isn’t.⠀
From "A Thousand Names for Joy"⠀ Reality is neither good nor bad. It’s bigger than good and bad. It has no opposite, there’s nothing that it’s not, there’s nothing that isn’t like it. The end of duality isn’t the end of the world: it’s the end of suffering. The brilliant, the bright—that’s what I’d call God if I called it anything. What doesn’t exist, what is beyond existence, is more brilliant than the sun. During one of my weekend intensives, a man once said to me, with the loveliest glow on his face, “I just understood! It’s amazing: what you’re talking about is heaven on earth!” I said, “You do understand. And actually, I’m talking from heaven, to earth.” (I love my little jokes.)⠀ ⠀ As you begin to wake yourself up from your dreams of hell or purgatory, heaven dawns on you in a way that the imagination can’t comprehend. And then, as you continue to question what you believe, you realize that heaven, too, is just a beginning. There is something better than heaven. It’s the eternal, meaningless, infinitely creative mind. It can’t stop for time or space or even joy. It’s so brilliant that it will shake what’s left of you into the depths of all-consuming wonder.⠀
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Post by Deleted on Dec 28, 2019 15:31:10 GMT
The only true love affair is the one with yourself. I am married to me, and that’s what I project onto everyone. I love you with all my heart; you don’t even have to participate, so there’s no motive in “I love you.” Isn’t that fine? I can love you completely, and you have nothing to do with it. There’s nothing you can do to keep me from the intimacy that I experience with you.⠀ ⠀ When I say “I love you,” it’s self-love. There’s no personality talking: I’m only talking to myself. Love is so self-absorbed that it leaves no room for any other. It’s self-consuming, always. There’s not a molecule separate from itself. In the apparent world of duality, people are going to see it as a you and a me, but in reality there is only one. And even that isn’t true. ⠀
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Post by Deleted on Dec 28, 2019 16:36:28 GMT
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