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Feelings come up spontaneously, and the attempt to control them is suppression.
You should allow feelings to come up as well as any accompanying
physical expression that is part of the inner release – such as laughing or
crying – but then you should not react to the feelings.
Nonreactiveness does not result in suppression because the feeling is
allowed to express itself fully into consciousness when you enter direct
experience. Direct experience of the feeling is all that is required to
eliminate suppression.You do not have to act on or act out the feeling
to avoid suppression.When feelings come up, you are in a precarious
position.You have not yet released through processing any of the tension
that accompanies difficult feelings.The temptation is to act on the
feeling to relieve tension.
Don’t act. Don’t be motivated by the feeling. Don’t extend the
negativity into the universe by doing or expressing anything that probably
would be self-destructive in the long run.You are learning sophisticated
techniques that will enable you to dissolve negative feelings
without having to act on them, but you must exercise willpower and
self-discipline.Will is an important function of the intellect,which must
be used now.